Tuesday, November 22, 2011

I Saved with Coupons

I love to watch Extreme Couponing!  Not because I want to have rooms and rooms of products but because I want to learn how to feed my family for less!  I know there is a way to save but the savings never seem to add up.....Until today!

I coerced my husband to go with me and with grocery list in hand and coupon binder in tow, we made our way to Ralphs.  Now keep in mind that no one really likes to go grocery shopping with me because I tend to spend way too much time in the store.  I stroll the isles, find the products I need and then check prices, package size and then compare which is the better deal.  This takes time and frankly my family would rather do other things. 

Today, I'm sure my husband just wanted to get in and out.  We walked in and right away, he wanted to know what was on the list so we could just grab and go.  We pushed our way through the crowded store and picked up the items on the list that included:  Ground cinnamon, a gallon of milk, a box of chocolate donuts, 2 containers of ice cream, 4 tubes of Pillsbury Crescent rolls, 2 tubes of Pillsbury Cinnamon Rolls, 9 boxes of Green Giant Frozen Vegetables, 4 boxes of General Mills cereal, 2-10 lb. bags of potatoes, 1 pkg. Rosemary, 1 stalk celery, 1 qt. Egg Nog. and a 19-lb. Turkey.  I had my manufacturer coupons as well as my Ralphs coupons. 

At the register, all scanned items rang up at  $127.08.  I made sure my husband saw that amount.  Then the Ralphs Club Card brought it down to $53.73.  Then my coupons brought it down even further to $39.43.  My husband was very impressed and happy.  So was I!  I couldn't believe I bought what I did for less than $40.00. 

I must say that as I sit and clip all the coupons each week, I ask myself, "Is this all worth it?"  Well today made it all worth it.  I just hope I can continue to save this much money each and every week.


Thank you to all who graciously hand their coupons over to me each week!  My family and I appreciate it so much!  Until next week....HAPPY CLIPPING!

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Cinnamon Rolls (Check your ingredients)

Today I decided to take my bread maker out of the storage cabinet and make (for the first time) homemade cinnamon rolls.  I gathered my ingredients for the dough and placed them all in my bread maker and turned it on to do its thing.

My son gets so excited when we do new things and he couldn't stop checking the little window to see what was happening in there.  An hour and 20 minutes later, the machine beeped and it was on to the cutting board to roll out the dough and spread it with butter, cinnamon and sugar.  Next we rolled the dough and cut into circles, put it in the greased baking pan to rise for an hour.

Hour's up and now it's time to put those babies in the oven for 20-25 minutes.  So exciting I can't wait to try them.  The timer goes off and they're ready to glaze.  For some reason though, the glaze is clumping up and not thining out.  I pour it over some and go for the taste.  Ummm, not the soft, sweet cinnamon rolls I was expecting.  I check the container and I guess in my rush to finish these off, I used Corn Starch instead of Powdered Sugar.  Oh no!   I quickly take them out of the baking pan and mix a batch of glaze (using the sugar of course) and pour it over the rolls. 

Now we're talking.  Soft, warm, sweet cinnamon rolls just like I imagined.  So easy to make but please make sure you take out the sugar and not the starch!


Bread Maker Cinnamon  Rolls

DOUGH:
1 Egg & enough water to make 1 cup  (water should be 80°)
1/4 Cup Oil
1/3 Cup Sugar
1 tsp. Salt
3-1/2 Cups Bread Flour
1-1/2 tsp. Active Dry Yeast

OPTIOINAL ADD-INS:
1/2 Cup Walnuts (optional)
1/2 Cup Raisins (optional)

FILLING:
1/3 Cup Butter softened
1/3 cup sugar
2 TBL. Cinnamon

GLAZE:
1/2 cup Powdered Sugar
3 TBL. Milk
1/4 tsp. Vanilla

Put all "dough" ingredients in bread machine in order listed. Program machine to DOUGH setting and start.  When machine beeps, you can add the optional add-ins.

When dough is done, place on a lightly floured surface and roll dough in a 12 x 18 inch rectangle for approximatley 18 rolls.    Spread dough with butter.  Sprinke with cinnamon/sugar mixture and roll tightly, jelly-roll style, starting with the longest side and cut into one inch slices.

Place in greased baking pan and let stand in a warm place for 1 hour or until double in size.
Bake at 350° for 25-30 minutes or until done

Mix glaze ingredients until smooth and drizzle over top. 

Enjoy!!

Sunday, November 13, 2011

Persimmon Cookies



Today seemed like a perfect day to bake.  My cousin gave me a few persimmons and one was just ripe for baking.  I gathered my ingredients and began.  I think these cookies turned out pretty yummy.  I just hope they last long enough for the rest of the family to try them:)

PERSIMMON COOKIES
1/2 cup margerine or butter
1 cup sugar
 1 egg
1 tsp.baking soda
1 cup persimmon pulp
2 cups flour
1/2 tsp. salt
1/2 tsp. cinnamon
1/4 tsp. nutmeg
1/4 tsp. cloves
1 cup raisins
1 cup chopped nuts
1/2 cup chocolate chips


Cream margerine or butter and sugar until blended.  Add egg,  persimmon pulp and baking soda. Mix well. Add sifted dry ingredients, nuts, chocolate chips & raisins. Drop on greased cookie sheet.  Bake at 325 degrees for 12-15 minutes.

Thursday, November 10, 2011

Interest in Pinterest

A few weeks ago, my niece and my sister were talking about this new addiction they have.  PINTEREST!  My niece sent me an invitation to join which I ignored....until recently.  I didn't know what it was, didn't care, and especially didn't have time for one more thing to take up my time. 

I tried looking at the site but didn't get it.  Just a bunch of pictures that made no sense to me.  I didn't really care to spend my time looking at other people's "boards" with their "pins."  What do I care what other people like or are interested in. 

I have so much in my life that takes every ounce of time I have, I really didn't want anything else to complicate my routine or sometimes lack of.  I do alot of searches on the web for things like card ideas, gift ideas, recipes, etc.  When I find something I like, I usually add it to my favorites.  The trouble with that is I'm pretty visual and when I want to look at something I've saved in my Favorites, it just seems a little overwhelming because I have to read through all the folders and find what I'm looking for.

I decided to look at Pinterest again and try to figure out what this thing is all about.  I set up an account, set up a couple of "Boards," and looked through a couple of things.  Basically, it seems like a visual "Favorites Board."  When I find something on the web I like instead of saving it a favorites folder, I "Pin It" to a Board I've created within my Pinterest account.  I can create as many Boards (or Folders) that I want and then pin my information on the Board.  I can now go to my account, look at my boards, and refer back to the things I've saved by seeing the actual picture of what it was.  Sounds a little confusing but I love it.  It's like having all these bulletin boards with pictures or names of sites pinned on them.

Although I do love it for being more interesting than my Favorites, it's not something I would become addicted to.  From what I understand, there are actually people who spend hours on this site just looking things up.  I do have a life and a full one at that but I do love when something can simplify things and Pinterest is one of those things.

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Holiday Baking Under Way!

Well, today I'm officially starting my holiday baking.  Every year, 2 days before Christmas, I can be found in my kitchen covered in flour and surrounded by my KitchenAid mixer, bread pans, measuring utensils and a sink full of dishes.  Because of all the baking I do, I am usually washing all the dishes while the goods are in the oven, preparing for the next batch of goodies to mix.  I'm usually so stressed because time is running short and there are always a million things yet to do.   It's messy, hectic and not very enjoyable.

This year, I am starting my baking early.  Today in fact!  I had some bananas that were just ripe for baking and I decided to make a couple of batches of banana nut muffins.  The house is cold and what better way to warm it up than by turning on my oven.  I'm gonna wrap the muffins and seal them in bags with my Seal-a-Meal and put them in the freezer until Christmas. 

My cousin gave me a bunch of persimmons and I just happened to have found a recipe book full of persimmon recipes and will try those out as well.  My son loves to be in the kitchen helping and learning and it serves as a great math lesson as well. 

I don't know if I'm getting smarter with age or if it's just the fact that I missed a whole season last year of baking.  My oven quit the week before Thanksgiving and I went the whole season without baking:(  After almost a year without an oven, maybe I'm just excited to be able to bake.  Whatever the reason, I plan to enjoy this Christmas to the fullest.  The time I would have spent in the kitchen baking, I can spend with my kids having fun!

Monday, October 31, 2011

Trick or Treat

Well, today is Halloween.  This is usually a big deal in our house.  This is probably the only time my  husband gets so excited and decorates the inside and outside of our house.  I've always made sure the kids were costumed and ready to go trick or treating while he makes sure the house is spooky ready for all the little ones.  He plans and maps out where he will hide to get the best screams.  This month however has been a really busy and hectic month and I thought there would be no Halloween. 

This would not be so bad for me.  You see, I on the other hand don't really like halloween.  I don't know why.  Maybe it's because there is a sense of the unknown behind it all.  I remember as a child, trick-or-treating and hating to be scared.  There was the neighbor who thought it funny to dress as a warewolf and hide behind the brick wall of his house.  As the kids walked down the sidewalk, he would pop his head over the fence and scare us all.  I didn't know him but to this day refer to the house as the "Monster House."  Then there was the man who sat still in a chair on his front porch.  He looked like a wax figure because he had a shine to him but I remember his arms were hairy and seemed real.   I just don't like the feeling of not knowing what's behind those costumes and decorations.  I don't like the feeling of being scared.  I'm afraid to admit  it, but I'm a little afraid of the dark, but "shh, don't tell my kids!"

When my kids were younger and in school, we started to invite family and friends over for food and snacks while my husband sat outside on the porch or in the bushes waiting.   One year it was cloudy and overcast, freezing cold and he still waited outside even while the rain came down.  He was so upset when he came in because the weather ruined his chance to scare the kids.  I like having people over since I can enjoy everyone's company and not have to take the kids out by myself. 




This year, since halloween is on a Monday, it just doesn't seem that big of a deal.  I thought that we would get by with Robert taking the kids out this year.  I told my son we wouldn't be decorating since Halloween was only 3 days away.  There just didn't seem to be a point to it.  Well  I guess I was wrong because my son asked my husband when the decorations were going up and my husband went right to the garage and took them all down and started doing his thing outside.  Everyone started going through the costumes to see what they were going to be.  My kids keep asking me what I'm going to be.  I don't want to be a party pooper so I guess I'll dig through the costumes and put something together and try to be as excited as my kids about being spooked on this Halloween Night!

Monday, October 24, 2011

No U-Pick Apples

Yesterday was the day we had planned to go apple picking.  We go every year to the orchards in Oak Glen, CA which is about an hour and a half from our home.  We picked this day because last year we went on October 22 and it was such a beautiful day with lots of apples that we wanted to go as close to that date this year. 

We drove up excited about the apples we'd come home with and talking about what we would do with our apples.  As we approached the farm that we always go to, we noticed the sign outside that read, "No U-Pick Apples Today."  What?  Why?  Robert went and asked the guy and he said there were no apples and he didn't think any of the farms had U-Pick but said we should check anyway.  We drove up a little ways to another farm and the same sign greeted us.  With no apples to pick, what the heck were we supposed to do?

We decided to drive to Hudson's Snowline Orchard for some tasty apple cider donuts.  We pulled in and noticed that the trees in the orchard were so green.  Last year at the same time, the colors had begun to change and you could see that it was fall.  This year however, things hadn't started changing yet.  We waited in line for our delicious donuts and then sampled some cider and tasted some different varieties of apples.  I picked up some cider donut mix to bring home and we walked out to listen to some music while we enjoyed our donuts. 

We found out that the apple season this year was extremely short.  I guess with the late spring, early summer snowfalls, all the blossoms on the trees were lost.  Goes to show you can't judge apple picking by the previous year.  Next year, we'll call to make sure there are lots of apples and go a little earlier.

Then we drove up to Riley's at Los Rios Ranch.  This is where we usually eat lunch after picking apples.  Since it was still early, we decided to walk around inside the shop and sample some different jellies, butters and sauces.  So many goodies but I decided to buy a jar of Apple Butter.  Since we didn't pick any apples, this year we decided to let the kids make their own Apple Cider.  They got to fill a bucket with apples, wash them and put them in a press and turn the crank till all the apples were gone.  Then they turned the wheel that presses the juice out of the apples until there was no more juice.  They ended with a gallon of cider.

After all the cider making, it was time to lay out the blankets in the shade and eat lunch.  The kids tossed around a football and we just relaxed for a good while.  Nothing like being outdoors with nature and enjoying all the different people.  I love people watching!  After all the relaxing, we headed across the street to the corn maze.  A person can get lost forever with all those stalks.  Something about being in a corn field that feels kinda eery.  Alyssa and I just stopped and listened to the sounds corn field makes.  I wouldn't want to be in one at night that's for sure.

All in all it was a good day. We didn't get to pick our apples but we spent time together and had fun anyway. I came home and baked up some biscuits and spread some of that apple butter on them and it was so good. 

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Fall Camping

Well, I mentioned yesterday that my aunt and uncle were out from Virginia.  They visit every 2 years and we try to squeeze in as much time with them as we can while they're here.  There's always much for them to do and many friends and family for them to visit.  Since they spend so much time on the road camping in different places and we love to camp, we've tried to get time to do just that but haven't had any luck in the past.  Until this year!

We scheduled the last week-end of their visit to go someplace local and camp with them.  The trip was to include our family of 6, aunt Ruth and uncle Steve, brother in-law and his daughter, my cousin Larry and his 2 boys and my cousin Ines and her 3 kids.  We drove about 2 hours east to Lake Hemet which lies in the San Jacinto Mountains in California.  We planned our meals, packed our bags and left Friday morning for a fun-filled week-end away.  We lead the group of cars and drove up to Idyllwild where we were going to meet my aunt.  They are early starters with no kids and therefore can just pack it up and go when ready.  We on the other hand had to figure how to get 2 tents, 7 sleeping bags, food, ice chests, blankets, pillows, firewood, cooking utensils, lights, chairs plus bags with our clothes, into a suburban and still have room for 5 people.    Thank goodness my cousin brought her truck and we put some stuff in the back. 

We got to Idyllwild a little later than I would have liked but early enough to grab a bite to eat and then head the 10 minutes to our campsite.  Check-in wasn't until 2pm so we had plenty of time.  We arrived at the site about 2:30pm and after all the confusion about who paid for which site, we finally pulled into the spots and started unpacking.  Excited we surveyed the area and figured the best place for the tents.  Now I've been camping before and was a little worried about the sites we had.  With so many kids, I could forsee injuries.  There were big boulders in the middle of the site, and the fire rings were positioned kind of wierd.  Then about 5 ft away from one of the pits was a water fountain about 2 feet from the ground.  Now correct me but who puts a water faucet in the middle of a campground where people will be sitting and walking around, at night, around the fire.  Anyway, we set up our camp and the guys took off to fish. 

My cousin and I got ready to cook some burgers for dinner and my brother-in-law started the bbq.  We were all relaxing when my phone rang at about 4:45pm.  Now let me mention that Amber, my oldest, didn't drive up with us.  Her boyfriend was working until 6pm and she wanted to stay home and wait for him so she could drive up with him.  There was a discussion about how I wasn't too happy about this arrangement since the roads are narrow, windy and dark when they'd be driving up.  I was also worried about her being home by herself because of the seizures she's been having this past year.  She knew how important this trip was for me to spend time with family and not have to worry about anything.  She assured me she would be fine and a friend was gonna "hang out" with her until Michel picked her up at 6:30.  So anyway, my phone rings at 4:45pm and Amber says,  "Mom, I locked myself out of the house."  Uh.....what!  I am 2 hours away, no one has a key to our house and there is no way to get in.  Of course I went around and locked every single window before we left because I didn't want her to forget to lock them.  As every mother does, the first thing I say is "I can't believe this Amber, I told you to come with us!"  I told her she was gonna have to figure it out and that I didn't want anything broken or she was gonna have to pay for it.  (Such a caring mom)  We hung up and I called my husband whose at the lake relaxing to tell him.  He packs up his gear and heads back to camp to try to figure out something for her to do. 

Did I mention it's my birthday week-end?  Happy birthday to me!

An hour goes by and finally, after the neighbor and her son try to help, I told my daughter she was gonna have to call a locksmith.  She agrees and calls.  Now it's 5:45 and she's called a locksmith.  Her friend is still there because her car keys are inside the house as well.  Michel is not out of work yet and I'm 2 hours away trying to have a good time.  At 6:30 they are still waiting for the locksmith.  At 7:00pm they are still waiting for the locksmith.  Now I'm getting worried because I don't want them driving the mountain late, not to mention the front gate closes at 10pm.  Finally at 7:15 the locksmith arrives and I think great, they should be leaving soon.  At 8:00 the locksmith is still there and finally at 8:15 he's done, they wait until he is gone so he doesn't see them packing the car and they leave.  Now we have to worry about a locksmith who now has the key to our house that's empty all week-end. 

The kids leave at 8:45pm and it's a 2 hour drive which means they won't be there till close to 11pm.  I still don't want them driving that mountain when it's pitch black.  I remember that Robert's cousins live in Hemet, which is at the bottom of the hill.  We ask if they can spend the night and they graciously agree.  We call my daughter buy she said she felt uncomfortable because she doesn't really know them and Michel, being a guy, says he's gonna drive straight up tonight.  We anxiously wait for their arrival.  When they finally call to say they've arrived, we wonder how they made it so quick.  I don't even want to ask!  They guys walk to the front gate and bring them back to the site.  Michel had to leave his car out front.  We are all tired and go to bed for a good nites sleep.....NOT! 

Between the howling coyotes, the freezing cold that I didn't expect and the fact that I have to pee, I can't sleep.  At 1:30am, my phone rings and it's Amber.  "Mom, I have to pee!"  Are you serious Amber.  Now you might ask why does a 22 year old have to tell you when she has to pee?  Well, it's pitch black, the bathrooms were a short distance but with coyotes howling and no lights in the bathrooms, I wouldn't walk by myself either.  That's what dad's are for.  I wake up Robert and he's none to happy but gets ready to take her.  I tell him I have to pee too and when I open the sleeping bag, I decide that I'll suffer the 5 hours till morning rather than brave the cold.  BIG MISTAKE!!!!!  It made for a looooong nite. 

Finally, daylight and I get up to go to the bathroom.  The day is new and we are all excited to be together.  We make breakfast, clean up, walk to the lake with the guys and watch them fish, we sit and talk, laugh and relax.  The older kids decide to go for a jog.  All 5 of them.  After awhile, 4 of them come back and announce that Karina, my 14 year old niece decided to walk back.  After a while we notice she's not back yet so they go look for her.  Then we hear the words WE CAN'T FIND KARINA.  Uh....What!  They go one way to look for and the guys come back from the market in the Suburban and say, "What's Karina doing all by herself?"  My cousin goes to check on her and apparantley, her foot hit a hole while running and she sprained her ankle.  INJURY #1   She gets iced up and sits for a few hours.  We play games and get ready for dinner.  It sure gets dark fast up there.  Note to self....more lanterns next time.

While we are waiting for dinner to cook, my daughter's boyfriend locks his keys in his car.  Really?  There's no way to get into that car. (I guess the last time it happened he should've given me a spare)  We get AAA to come out and unlock the car.  While we are waiting for them to come however, Amber starts to go check out what's happening and trips over one of the stupid fire pits that is in an awkward spot.  Without lights, it's hard to see and she lets out a yell and I freak out because I don't know if she's had a seizure, hit her head, broken something or what.  Everyone runs to her and picks her up and she's wailing.  No parent wants to see their child in that much pain.  Thank God, Robert and Michel know a thing or two about first aid and medical stuff.  They check her leg and after about 20 mintues determine it's not broken.  They carry her to a chair and ice it.  It took a good while for everyone to settle down from the excitement.  By morning she was able to put some slight pressure on it.  INJURY #2!

The second night is a little warmer and I make sure to make all the bathroom trips before I hit the sleeping bag.  No coyotes and a decent night sleep!  Up early the next morning.  Church, breakfast and pack up.  Somehow it went way too fast!  I wondered why there were so many trials and tribulations during such a short period of time.  I wondered how this trip would have been different if none of it had occured.  After much thought, I realized that we were all being tested to see how we handle adversity and we passed with flying colors.  Yes, there was a period on Saturday nite when I wanted to have it out with God!  I wondered how much junk he could possibly put on such a young girl.  I wondered why things always happen to Amber and asked him why he just couldn't cut her a break in life.  Then on the way home, as I reflected on the week-end, I realized that maybe he was putting these things in her path to make her stronger.  Maybe he was testing her to see if she could pass his test so that he could present her with all his blessings.  I realized that it's not what happens in our lives, it's how we handle what happens.  The trip could have been ruined Friday nite when she locked the keys in the house.  I could have been so upset that it ruined my whole week-end.  Then on Saturday, Amber could have sulked all night and ruined all our trip but just as in Amber spirit, which I love, she just picked herself up and smiled.  She lets the stuff just role off her and moves forward.  We all had fun and made memories that we'll never forget.  We spent 3 incredible days with 2 people we only get to see every 2 years and made the most of that time. 

Amber.."Did you ever know that you're my hero"



Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Fall is Here!

Wow!  I can't believe it's been a month since I've posted.  Let's see.....what's been happening since then.  Well, first of all, we were busy getting ready for my aunt and uncle to arrive from  Virginia.  They are retired and travel around the United States, camping in different places.  They come for a visit every 2 years so we are always excited when their time comes.  We also have a big family get-together while they are here and this year it was decided to have it at our house since we were celebrating mine and Robert's birthdays. 

Then there was the camping trip we also planned to take the last week-end they were here.  We have tried the last few times they came out to plan some type of fishing/camping excursion but there just doesn't seem to be enough time in the short 2-week period they are here, but this year they told us to plan it and they would go.

I guess since last month I've just been preparing and planning for those events.  Sadly, they left Sunday for their journey back to Virginia.  We had such a great time with them.  They are two very special people and I hate that we only see them every 2 years.

I do know that fall is finally here and I love it! This is a busy time of year, and things can get pretty hectic but I will enjoy every bit of this season since it's my favorite. Maybe because my birthday falls in the middle of it. I have decorated the house and our pumpkins are ready to be brought in from the garden. We were able to buy an oven (after not having one for a year) and I am ready to put it to good use baking all the goodies I missed last year.

I was also busy making cards and halloween treat bags to sell at our monthly swap-meet that we attend. I figured that in addition to the purses we sell we could set a table out with some holiday crafts as well. It just seems that there is always something to do and sometimes I just can't keep up.




I am posting pics of my holiday cards and goodies!  I have a shop on Etsy (4angelsKreations) and will be making Christmas cards very soon.  I also have been making football player pavers for decoration, in addition to my holiday bricks.  I have posted pics of those as well.  Hope you enjoy!

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Note to Ebay Shoppers

If you are an Ebay shopper, then this note might be helpful when leaving feedback for sellers.  I have been selling on Ebay for about 3 years now and do it as a hobby.  There are however, folks who sell on Ebay for a living.  They rely on their sales to generate a significant income.

As an Ebay buyer, there are many things to consider before making a purchase.  The cost of the item, the feedback percentage, the number of negative feedbacks in a given period and what the negative feedbacks were for. 

For a seller it's very important to maintain a good rating.  As a seller, I pride myself in offering good customer service as well as being fair to the buyer.  I have a policy stated in all my auctions regarding my shipping policy and it's the buyers responsibility to read the policy of each seller as it varys from seller to seller.   My policy is that I will ship the item within 3 business days after receiving a cleared payment from buyer.  Saturday and Sunday are not business days therefore, if I receive a payment on a Thursday or Friday, I have until Tuesday or Wednesday of the following week to ship and still be within my policy.  I usually try to ship the following day and in some cases the same day as the payment is received, however, I have other obligations that may not allow instant shipping.

Once I ship a package, it is out of my hands as to the time frame of delivery.  My auctions state the shipping method as well as the estimated delivery, per the United States Postal Service.  I am amazed at how many times I receive a message from a buyer 3 days after payment has been made wanting to know where their package is.  Sometimes the buyers will state that they paid 4 days ago and still have not received their package.  I usually respond in kind as to the date of sale, date of payment, my shipping policy, the date shipped, tracking # and the USPS estimated delivery date.  The buyer responds with a kind thank you and sometimes they apologize for being impatient.  There are many times that I receive good feedback on all items except shipping time.  Buyers please don't penalize the seller for the USPS slow shipping time.  If you want your item in a timely manner, kindly communicate that to the seller and they can arrange for a faster shipping method.  You of course would need to pay the higher price for faster shipping. 

This leads me to my next item.  Shipping & handling fees are included in each and every auction.  As a seller, there are many costs involved in selling online.  There are packaging materials, time involved, gas that is used to run the business etc.  These costs are included in the handling fee.  The shipping costs are based on the United States Postal Service and United Parcel Service fees.  As a seller, I don't charge a huge handling fee.  In fact, my handling fee is usually less than a dollar.  Ebay charges it's sellers a fee to list an item and a fee to sell an item.  The fee for selling an item is a percentage of what the item sold for as well as the shipping cost.  For example if I sell an item for $9.00 and the shipping on that item is $8.00, I pay a fee on $17.00.  This is to ensure that buyers are not being overcharged shipping costs. Paypal also charges a fee  to use their service and that fee is also a percentage of the selling and shipping cost.  I can tell you that after Ebay and Paypal get their fees from sellers, the profit shrinks.  The higher the item plus shipping the higher the fees.  I know that I try to keep my shipping as low as possible so avoid high fees.  The amount I receive from a buyer for shipping is almost exact as to what I pay at the post office.  In fact, the amount is printed on a receipt that is attached to a label on the box.  Anyone who receives a package in the mail can clearly see what the postage cost was.  If a buyer pays me $10.50 to ship an item they bought from me, the amount I pay to ship is normally within five to fifty cents of that amount.  Again, it seems that buyers are upset about the high shipping fees so they give the seller a low rating. 

When someone buys something online, they know the cost before they pay for the item.  If they feel the shipping is too high then they shouldn't purchase the item.  Why blame the seller for shipping costs that are out of their control?  Low ratings hurt sellers because they lower their feedback percentage which in turn makes buyers leery of buying from them.  I hope that people who buy online will think about the feedback they leave.  Be realistic and fair.